Anyway to start with the whole bookish start - who is a friend? What is the meaning of the word friend? How to know if somebody is a friend? Blah blah blah. I have had many friends since my play group times to school to college to university and all. I have made bests of friends and have lost many good friends. The idea of best friends for life is - amusing. I am not saying it doesn't happen. My Dad has a pretty tight group and they have been together for lifetime.
So how to find friends? - the simple answer would be by being truly yourself. If you make the mistake of pretending to be someone else then you attract the crowd who wants to hang out with the pretend you, not you. People with different interests make interesting friends, why? Because they introduce you to a whole new different scale of things, they bring you out of your comfort zone, be it loosely translating to sitting on a chin-chinchy ride home and yelling your lungs out :D People with same interests make gud friends for obvious reasons, you can have nonstop killer discussions on 'how the tv series should have ended' or tag them in music videos over n over again :D
Long time back when I was in phase of reading quotations from great authors and finding my own meaning which had nothing to do with the quotation at hand :D haha rush to adulthood, Anyway I came across a quotation which went something a true friend is the one with whom silence is comfortable. I didn't understand it then cause my friends were nothing but LOUD :D but I guess I understand it now..
How to alienate losers? Hmm.. this one is little tough. First and foremost you have to IDENTIFY these people. and how to identify? again pretty simple - once friendship becomes 'work' its pretty much done. Cut people off who bring you down,Selfish friendships are just plain emotionally abusive, they are anchors and you will sink down right with them. I used to be a people-pleaser and suffered a superman complex, am not proud of it. Its better to make good friends who will stick with you instead of great friends who will eventually bring you down. Its like its a two way street: I believe in You, You believe in me. You don't believe in me, then whats the point of this?
In all this everybody needs to understand that people change. Times becomes different. That doesn't mean that these people were never your friends. I know people who were greatest of my friends but times have changed. Now I am just civil to them but I respect the times I had with them. I also have friends who I don't talk to for months and years and just one phone call and we are instantly jolted into our own time. Recently my bestfriend had a baby girl, Mashallah. I talked to her last night and it hit me nothing has changed, she is still the same even though there is a baby in picture now.
Friendship is a very overrated concept, you become friends with people you like. People who like you back hang around and thus it continues so.
Long time back when I was in phase of reading quotations from great authors and finding my own meaning which had nothing to do with the quotation at hand :D haha rush to adulthood, Anyway I came across a quotation which went something a true friend is the one with whom silence is comfortable. I didn't understand it then cause my friends were nothing but LOUD :D but I guess I understand it now..
How to alienate losers? Hmm.. this one is little tough. First and foremost you have to IDENTIFY these people. and how to identify? again pretty simple - once friendship becomes 'work' its pretty much done. Cut people off who bring you down,Selfish friendships are just plain emotionally abusive, they are anchors and you will sink down right with them. I used to be a people-pleaser and suffered a superman complex, am not proud of it. Its better to make good friends who will stick with you instead of great friends who will eventually bring you down. Its like its a two way street: I believe in You, You believe in me. You don't believe in me, then whats the point of this?
In all this everybody needs to understand that people change. Times becomes different. That doesn't mean that these people were never your friends. I know people who were greatest of my friends but times have changed. Now I am just civil to them but I respect the times I had with them. I also have friends who I don't talk to for months and years and just one phone call and we are instantly jolted into our own time. Recently my bestfriend had a baby girl, Mashallah. I talked to her last night and it hit me nothing has changed, she is still the same even though there is a baby in picture now.
Friendship is a very overrated concept, you become friends with people you like. People who like you back hang around and thus it continues so.
2 comments:
Many likes anam. You depicted a practical picture of friendship. It is also a source of motivation for me.
Glad you liked it :)
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